Why Netflix’s ‘Messy Girl Summer’ Missed the Mark—And What It Teaches Us About Fertility Journeys

Ever scrolled through Netflix hunting for the perfect pick, only to feel like something’s... missing? That’s exactly the feeling when Netflix introduced their ‘Messy Girl Summer’ category—and yet somehow left out some of the most relatable titles. It’s funny how something intended to celebrate imperfections can still feel just a bit off. But what if this small cultural moment actually shines a light on a bigger truth—especially for those navigating the often messy, unpredictable journey of fertility?

In a recent commentary, CNET’s review of Netflix’s new ‘Messy Girl Summer’ row highlights how well-intended ideas can overlook important nuances. That “messy” tag is meant to embrace chaos, vulnerability, and authenticity. But when it misses out on crucial voices or stories, it reminds us how tricky it is to truly capture the full spectrum of human experience—and that includes the emotional rollercoaster of trying to conceive.

Why mention Netflix on a fertility blog? Because just like those missing titles, many fertility journeys—especially those involving at-home insemination—are layered, complex, and often underrepresented. If you’re using or considering home insemination kits, you know it’s not always a neat or straightforward path. There are highs, lows, hopes, and doubts swirling all at once.

Let’s be honest: fertility struggles are messy. From timing ovulation to dealing with the physical demands of insemination, and the emotional weight of uncertainty—it’s a lot. And sometimes, the glossy success stories don’t tell the full story.

That’s where tools designed with real people in mind come in. For example, MakeAMom’s at-home insemination systems provide options tailored for various needs—whether you’re working with low motility sperm or sensitive conditions like vaginismus. What’s remarkable is their plain, discreet packaging and reuse-friendly kits, which take some stress out of the process and offer a more affordable alternative to clinical insemination. And with an average success rate of 67%, they represent a meaningful option for many hopeful parents.

But beyond the tools, what really matters is fostering emotional resilience and community. It’s okay to acknowledge that fertility isn’t a perfect, tidy story. It’s full of messy moments—frustration, hope, tears, and even humor. The “messy girl” mentality Netflix tried to capture can serve as a metaphor here: embracing imperfections can be powerful.

Here are a few ways to cultivate that mindset during your fertility journey:

• Normalize the ups and downs. It’s okay not to have all the answers or get it right the first time.
• Seek out communities and resources that reflect a real, diverse range of experiences, not just highlight reels.
• Use products that empower you. Choosing at-home insemination kits designed for your unique needs can reduce anxiety and help you feel more in control.
• Practice self-compassion. Treat yourself like a friend going through the same tough road.

For those exploring home insemination, platforms like MakeAMom’s website offer not only carefully designed products but also educational materials and testimonials that can make the process feel less isolating.

So, what can we learn from Netflix’s ‘Messy Girl Summer’ category? Even when intentions are good, representation matters deeply. Fertility journeys are rich with diversity, and the more we embrace that messy reality—honest emotions, setbacks, and victories—the more empowered we become.

Have you experienced the highs and lows of at-home insemination? What tools or communities helped you most? Share your thoughts below. Because sometimes, our messiest moments are the ones that bring us closest together.

For more perspectives on navigating fertility with confidence, check out the original Netflix commentary here: I Think Netflix's New 'Messy Girl Summer' Category Missed a Few Titles, but I've Got You.