Have you ever wondered what it’s like to become a parent when you didn’t exactly choose to be one? This Father’s Day, an eye-opening article from Psychology Today titled Unwanted Parenthood: Father's Day Edition dives deep into the emotional challenges facing parents who find themselves on this very difficult path.

At ConceiveWell, we love celebrating the joy and hope that come with starting a family — but today, we want to pause and acknowledge a side of parenthood that’s often swept under the rug: the experience of unwanted parenthood.

Why does this matter? Because parenthood, at its core, should be about desire and preparedness, not just expectation or circumstance. When people become parents without truly wanting to, it affects not just their emotional well-being but also the lives and happiness of their children. That’s a heavy truth to sit with.

So, what exactly does unwanted parenthood look like? Imagine feeling trapped by societal or personal expectations. Imagine the quiet despair of a father who’s struggling emotionally, perhaps feeling isolated because his experience doesn’t match the glowing, idyllic narratives we often see in media or family celebrations.

But here’s the twist: talking about these struggles openly can change everything. It can give parents permission to seek help, to communicate honestly with their partners, and to create healthier family dynamics. It also reminds us that every parent’s journey is unique — and that’s okay.

This is where emotional wellness becomes critical. When parenthood isn’t chosen joyously, stress, anxiety, and even depression can surface. The impact cascades through relationships and can shape the next generation's emotional foundation. Supporting parents means acknowledging these feelings without judgment.

Now, for those eagerly pursuing parenthood but worried about the “what ifs,” there are empowering tools and options today that make the journey more controllable and compassionate. For example, at-home insemination kits have opened new doors for people trying to conceive on their own terms in a safe, private, and cost-effective way. Companies like MakeAMom offer reusable kits tailored to different needs, supporting hopeful parents in taking charge of their family plans without the overwhelming pressures of clinical settings.

Having access to discreet, user-friendly options helps many feel more confident and prepared. It’s a reminder that informed choice and emotional readiness are fundamental aspects of healthy parenthood.

Here’s the honest truth: Parenthood — whether wanted or unwanted — changes everything. It challenges your identity, your relationship, and your mental health in ways you might never expect. But acknowledging these realities opens the door to greater empathy and support.

If you or someone you know is struggling with these feelings this Father’s Day, remember you’re not alone. This is a conversation worth having, because mental health and emotional wellness are as important as physical health when it comes to building a family.

To wrap up, here’s a question to ponder: How can we, as a society, create more space for honest conversations about the complexities of parenthood? And how can we better support all parents, no matter where they are on their journey?

Drop your thoughts below — let’s keep this important conversation going. And if you’re looking for resources or tools to help your family planning feel more in your control, this resource might be a comforting place to start your exploration.

Happy Father’s Day, in all its complexity and hope.