Ever had someone rub your belly and assume you’re pregnant—out of the blue? If you just cringed, you’re not alone. A viral story recently made the rounds about a woman whose coworker literally rubbed her belly at work, blurted out a “congratulations,” and got a reality check she’ll never forget. (Read the eye-opening article here.)
But here’s the real truth: Pregnancy assumptions are more than just awkward—they’re a ticking time bomb for emotional wellness, especially for anyone trying to conceive.
Why Do People Still Make Pregnancy Comments?
Let’s be real. It’s 2025. We’ve all seen enough social media callouts, yet the “Are you expecting?” and “When are you having kids?” questions won’t die. Why? Because our culture still treats pregnancy—and yes, even the road to it—as public property.
But here’s the catch: You have no idea what someone is going through. Maybe they’re trying to conceive. Maybe they’re struggling. Maybe they just had lunch. But when you turn someone’s body into a topic of public conversation, you’re crossing a line.
The Hidden Toll on Emotional Health
If you’re on a fertility journey, these “innocent” comments can hit like a ton of bricks: - They remind you of what you want, but don’t have yet. - They turn private struggles into public spectacles. - They set off a spiral of stress, shame, or self-doubt.
Research shows that fertility challenges can already be one of the most stressful life experiences. The last thing anyone needs is a well-meaning coworker making their uterus the talk of the office kitchen.
How to Reclaim Your Boundaries (Without Losing Your Cool)
So, what’s the right way to respond when someone crosses the line? Take a page from the woman in this week’s viral story: She asserted herself—firmly and unapologetically.
But you don’t always have to snap to make your point stick. Here are some powerful comebacks and strategies:
- Use Humor: “Nope, just enjoying my burrito baby.”
- Go Direct: “I prefer not to discuss my body.”
- Educate: “Pregnancy isn’t always an easy or comfortable topic. I hope you understand.”
And yes, sometimes the best response is a simple, ice-cold stare. Set your boundary, move on.
For Those Trying to Conceive: You Deserve Privacy & Support
If you’re on your own path to parenthood (no matter what that looks like), these comments sting. It’s okay to feel angry, sad, or even a little amused at people’s cluelessness. But remember: Your journey is yours alone.
Want real, judgment-free support? Seek out communities and tools built for your needs, not anyone else’s expectations. For example, people pursuing pregnancy at home—whether solo or with a partner—often face extra scrutiny. That’s why products like the MakeAMom at-home insemination kits exist, giving individuals and couples privacy, control, and comfort on their own terms.
MakeAMom’s reusable kits are discreetly shipped (no neon “BABY ON BOARD” packaging!) and designed for real-life needs, from low motility sperm to sensitivities like vaginismus. Their average 67% success rate offers solid reassurance for anyone looking for agency in their conception journey—without the clinic waiting room or nosy questions.
What Can We All Learn? (Even If You’re Not Trying to Conceive)
The truth is, policing other people’s bodies is never okay. Whether you’re trying to conceive, happily child-free, or still thinking about it, everyone deserves respect and emotional safety—especially in the workplace.
Here’s how you can be part of the solution: - Pause before commenting on someone’s body or family plans. - Champion inclusive and supportive conversations, not assumptions. - Share resources and stories (like the one above) to help raise awareness.
Let’s Start a New Era of Boundaries
If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a thoughtless comment, know that you’re not alone—and you have every right to set boundaries. If you’re curious about at-home conception options or want to support someone who’s TTC, check out MakeAMom’s resources and personal stories for tips, real talk, and encouragement.
How have you handled intrusive questions about pregnancy or fertility? What boundaries have you set—and what’s one thing you wish people knew? Sound off in the comments below. Your story could be the one that helps someone else reclaim their peace!